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Andy Singer

cartoon

No Exit

Cagle

3 March 2009

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The best thing ever?

 

Not as far as Lucy Mangan is concerned.

But can she be persuaded otherwise?

 

In a bid to awaken her maternal instinct

she consults the experts.

 

Starting with her mother

 

The Guardian

Family

p. 1

Saturday October 29, 2005

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2005/oct/29/
familyandrelationships.family

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

life

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

artificial life        UK

 

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/profiles/
dr-craig-venter-so-doctor-how-does-it-feel-to-have-cre - 21 May 2010

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2007/oct/06/
genetics.climatechange

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

afterlife

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

life expectancy        USA

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/30/
health/joblessness-shortens-lifespan-of-least-educated-white-women-research-says.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

life expectancy gap

between rich and poor people in England        UK

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2010/jul/02/
poor-in-uk-dying-10-years-earlier-than-rich

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

lifespan        USA

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/30/
health/joblessness-shortens-lifespan-of-least-educated-white-women-research-says.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

living longer        UK

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/shortcuts/2013/jun/02/
microlives-key-to-living-longer

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

National Vital Statistics Report

United States Life Tables, 2003 - Volume 54, Number 14 - 2006

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr54/nvsr54_14.pdf

 

 

 

 

in the course of one's life

 

 

 

 

live

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Giving birth - Fight for Life

BBC    9 Sep. 2010

Contains graphic medical scenes

 

 

 

 

Giving birth - Fight for Life        BBCWorldwide        9 Sep 2010

 

Contains graphic medical scenes.

 

The riskiest day of your life is the day you are born.

 

During birth,

the design of the mother's pelvis and baby's head

will be subject to huge pressure.

 

It takes an extraordinary battle for survival

just to make it into the world.

 

Ground-breaking internal imagery

and computer graphics

allow us to see this most perilous journey

as a mother gives birth to her baby.

 

Watch more high quality videos

on the BBC Worldwide YouTube channel here:

http://www.youtube.com/bbcworldwide

 

Youtube > BBC Worldwide

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ki-PddaSlO4 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

infant        UK

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2013/mar/03/
us-doctors-cure-child-born-hiv

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

infant        USA

 

https://www.npr.org/2022/07/01/
1109260322/woman-20-killed-new-york-city-stroller-infant-baby-3-month-shooting

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

liitle infant        USA

 

Thug Life > "The Hate U Gave Little Infants, Fuck Everybody"

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thug_Life

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

the under-threes        UK

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/apr/03/
oliver-james-parenting-under-threes

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

toddler        UK

 

https://www.theguardian.com/books/gallery/2022/mar/03/
toddlers-kites-and-dogs-the-world-of-shirley-hughes-in-pictures

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

toddler        USA

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/06/us/
guns-children-deaths.html

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/17/us/
among-experts-scrutiny-of-attention-disorder-diagnoses-in-2-and-3-year-olds.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

child

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

childhood        USA

 

https://www.npr.org/2020/12/20/
948404447/jingle-jangle-director-david-e-talbert-calls-film-a-love-letter-to-my-childhood

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/23/
opinion/the-ghost-house-of-my-childhood.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Boyhood    IFC Films    2014

 

 

 

 

Boyhood | Official US Trailer | IFC Films

Video        2014

 

Boyhood is nominated

for a total of 6 Academy Awards including Best Picture,

Best Actor in a Supporting Role (Ethan Hawke),

Best Actress in a Supporting Role (Patricia Arquette),

Best Director (Richard Linklater),

Best Film Editing (Sandra Adair)

and Best Original Screenplay (Richard Linklater).

 

YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0oX0xiwOv8

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

boyhood        USA

 

https://www.npr.org/2014/07/10/
330291891/filmed-over-12-years-boyhood-follows-a-kids-coming-of-age

 

https://www.npr.org/2011/09/03/
140144964/we-the-animals-delivers-a-fiery-ode-to-boyhood

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

before the age of two

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

from the age of about five

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

the under-fives

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

the world of 10-year-old girls        UK

 

http://www.theguardian.com/uk/2004/sep/08/
childprotection.schools 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

before he had left his teens

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

http://www.randomhouse.com/pantheon/graphicnovels/childhell_2.html
http://www.randomhouse.com/pantheon/graphicnovels/childhell.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Matt Groening

Is childhood hell?

http://knopfdoubleday.com/genre/graphic-novels/ 

http://www.randomhouse.com/pantheon/graphicnovels/groening.html

http://knopfdoubleday.com/genre/graphic-novels/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

young

 

 

 

 

young  runaways in the United States        USA

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/27/us/
27runaways.html

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/26/us/
26runaway.html

 

 

 

 

youngster

 

 

 

 

youth        UK

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/
home-news/who-cares-for-our-runaways-rise-in-middleclass-youth-fleeing-home-
1704818.html - 14 June 2009

 

 

 

 

child, children        UK

https://www.theguardian.com/society/
children

 

 

 

 

biological children

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

tween        USA

 

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/07/12/
1187130983/smartphone-tween-safe-alternatives

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

adolescence        USA

 

http://www.npr.org/2017/02/22/
515433513/adolescence-isnt-the-only-horror-in-the-mercy-of-the-tide

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

teenager        UK

 

https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/gallery/2024/apr/04/
young-people-what-it-means-to-be-a-teenager-
in-pictures - Guardian pictures gallery

 

 

 

 

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/
who-cares-for-our-runaways-rise-in-middle-class-youth-fleeing-home-1704818.html
- 23 October 2011

 

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2007/feb/23/
drugsandalcohol.britishidentityandsociety

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

teenager        USA

 

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/05/09/
1174838633/psychologists-issue-
health-advisory-for-teens-and-social-media

 

 

 

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/04/
opinion/coronavirus-mental-health-teenagers.html

 

 

 

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/09/15/
opinion/letters/teenagers-technology.html

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/09/07/
opinion/sunday/teenager-anxiety-phones-social-media.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

teenage boys        UK

 

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2009/oct/10/
the-secret-life-of-britains-teenage-boys

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

teenage sex        USA

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/12/
opinion/choking-teen-sex-brain-damage.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

teens

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

teenagers' diaries        UK

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/may/15/
teenager-diary-cringe-1980s

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

thirteen        USA

 

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2023/09/20/
well/family/13-year-old-girls-social-media-self-esteem.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

twentysomething        UK

 

http://www.theguardian.com/cities/2015/may/19/
toxteth-then-now-tricia-porter-photographs-liverpool

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

transitioning to adulthood        USA

 

http://www.npr.org/2017/02/21/
510554718/adulting-school-teaches-young-adults-grown-up-skills

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Generation Z        USA

 

https://www.npr.org/2019/04/13/
702555175/under-employers-gaze-gen-z-is-biting-its-tongue-on-social-media

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

General Register Office        UK

Official information on births, marriages and deaths

 

https://www.gov.uk/general-register-office

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Corpus of news articles

 

Life / Health > Childhood, youth

 

 

 

’07 U.S. Births

Break Baby Boom Record

 

March 19, 2009

The New York Times

By ERIK ECKHOLM

 

More babies were born in the United States in 2007 than in any other year in American history, according to preliminary data reported Wednesday by the National Center for Health Statistics.

The 4,317,000 births in 2007 just edged out the figure for 1957, at the height of the baby boom. The increase reflected a slight rise in childbearing by women of all ages, including those in their 30s and 40s, and a record share of births to unmarried women.

But in contrast with the culturally transforming postwar boom, when a smaller population of women bore an average of three or four children, the recent increase mainly reflects a larger population of women of childbearing age, said Stephanie J. Ventura, chief of reproductive statistics at the center and an author of the new report. Today, the average woman has 2.1 children.

Also in 2007, for the second straight year and in a trend health officials find worrisome, the rate of births to teenagers rose slightly after declining by one-third from 1991 to 2005.

“The 14 years with teenage birth rates going down was one of the great success stories in public health, and it’s possible that it’s coming to an end,” said Sarah S. Brown, chief executive of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, a private group in Washington.

But officials cautioned that the reversal has been small — a rise of 2 percent in 2006 and 1 percent in 2007 — and that it is too early to know what the rate will do next.

Even at the low point in 2005, the United States had the highest rates of teenage pregnancy, birth and abortion of any industrialized country. Because teenage births carry higher risks of medical problems and poverty for mother and child, state health agencies, schools and private groups have mounted educational campaigns to deter teenage pregnancy.

Still, the reasons for the steep decline and recent reversal are poorly understood. The discussion is colored by politics: some liberals say “abstinence only” sex education and restrictions on distribution of contraceptives are only leading to more pregnancies, while conservatives tend to blame the ever more permissive social climate.

Teenage abortion rates have been falling for years and are not believed to be a major factor in the birth trends. “The decline resulted from less sex and more contraception,” Ms. Brown said. “So the new trend must involve some combination of more sex and less contraception.”

The new report also found that the share of births to unmarried women of all ages reached a record high of 40 percent of all births in 2007, the most recent data available. This continued a marked trend upward in unwed births since 2002.

The growth has mainly been fueled by increases among adult women, Ms. Ventura said. Racial and ethnic differences remain large: 28 percent of white babies were born to unmarried mothers in 2007, compared with 51 percent of Hispanic babies and 72 percent of black babies. The shares of births to unwed mothers among whites and Hispanics have climbed faster than the share among blacks, but from lower starting points.

In yet another record high, the share of deliveries by Caesarean section reached 32 percent in 2007, up 2 percent from 2006. Experts have repeatedly said some C-sections are not medically necessary and impose excess costs, but the rate has steadily climbed, from 21 percent in 1996.

’07 U.S. Births Break Baby Boom Record,
NYT, 19.3.2009,
https://www.nytimes.com/2009/03/19/
health/19birth.html 

 

 

 

 

 

My Secret Life

 

January 2, 2009

The New York Times

By ELLEN ULLMAN

Op-Ed Contributor
 

 

San Francisco

I AM not adopted; I have mysterious origins.

I have said that sentence many times in the course of my life as an adopted person. I like it so much I put it into the mouth of a character in the novel I’m writing. The character and I are both fond of the idea. We can think of ourselves as living in the dense pages of 19th-century fiction, where one’s origins — the exact mother and father — are not nearly as important as one’s “circumstances.”

Some might say I came to this rationalization because, until recently, everything surrounding my adoption was kept secret from me. Even the date it was finalized was a secret. (The woman on the phone said, “Those records are sealed.” I said, “I know I can’t see what’s in them, but can I find out the date from which I couldn’t see what’s in them?” She replied, “Even the outsides of the records are sealed” — a confounding statement, as I envisioned envelopes surrounding envelopes, all sealed into infinity.)

Of course, mysterious origins are a confusing business these days. One might be gestated in an unknown womb while having genes from some combination of one’s mother and father and a stranger; from a mother’s womb with some combination of known and unknown genes — not to mention the complication of untold numbers of half-siblings who might be out there from the sperm donations of one man. There are adoptive parents and biological parents, surrogates and donors — adults of all sorts claiming parenthood by right of blood, genes, birth, law and affection.

Does one have the right to know all of these people? If so, do they have a reciprocal right to find the child in whose birth they participated?

I won’t even try to answer these questions. It seems we must have a social conversation about this subject that will last for many years. The trend, certainly, is toward openness, a growing “right” to know. I am not against this trend. I simply want to give not-knowing its due.

I like mysteries. I like the sense of uniqueness that comes from having unknown origins (however false that sense may be). I have a dear friend who is also adopted. We spoke as we were considering whether we should enter our names into the New York State Adoption Registry, where we might learn something about our history.

My friend grew up in a small town upstate near a university. She had constructed for herself a satisfying fantasy in which her mother and father were in town on fellowships from the World Bank, had the occupations “king” and “queen,” had ruled in a remote region where everyone was fit, ate a diet centered upon yak yogurt and lived 110 years. She decided not to register. “One family is quite enough for me,” she said.

My own fantasies were more vague: an evolving set of parents including actresses, folk singers, writers and intellectuals. I am certain that none were like the computer scientists and mathematicians who run up and down the bloodlines of my adoptive father’s family. I think it is because of them, the example of those engineers and math professors, that I went into software engineering, a field for which I do not have native talent. (I was good enough, but I had to work at it.) If I had been raised by the word-eaters — writers, readers and long-letter-writers — who I’m certain were my “natural” parents, I never would have spent 20 years as a computer programmer.

Which is exactly my point. I could just see my birth mother looking up from George Eliot’s “Daniel Deronda” (Book V, “Mordecai”) to say, “Darling, why struggle so on those cold programs when you haven’t yet read ‘Middlemarch’?” And so I might have put aside my sweaty attempt to write a bubble-sort algorithm — and thereby missed the defining profession of my time.

No one is a genetic match to his or her parents. Nature has gone to a great deal of trouble to see that we are not like them (a strong argument against adding cloning to the human parental mix). Through the miracle of natural genetic recombination, each child, with the sole exception of an identical twin, is conceived as a unique being. Even the atmosphere of the womb works its subtle changes, and by the time we emerge into the light, we are our own persons. Knowing every single ancestor, therefore, will never solve the deeper mystery, which of course is the dreadful question of who we become.



Ellen Ullman is the author of the novel “The Bug”

and the forthcoming “By Blood.”

My Secret Life, NYT, 2.1.2009,
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/02/opinion/02ullman.html

 

 

 

 

 

Parents Torn

Over Fate of Frozen Embryos

 

December 4, 2008

The New York Times

By DENISE GRADY

 

For nearly 15 years, Kim and Walt Best have been paying about $200 a year to keep nine embryos stored in a freezer at a fertility clinic at Duke University — embryos that they no longer need, because they are finished having children but that Ms. Best cannot bear to destroy, donate for research or give away to another couple.

The embryos were created by in vitro fertilization, which gave the Bests a set of twins, now 14 years old.

Although the couple, who live in Brentwood, Tenn., have known for years that they wanted no more children, deciding what to do with the extra embryos has been a dilemma. He would have them discarded; she cannot.

“There is no easy answer,” said Ms. Best, a nurse. “I can’t look at my twins and not wonder sometimes what the other nine would be like. I will keep them frozen for now. I will search in my heart.”

At least 400,000 embryos are frozen at clinics around the country, with more being added every day, and many people who are done having children are finding it harder than they had ever expected to decide the fate of those embryos.

A new survey of 1,020 fertility patients at nine clinics reveals more than a little discontent with the most common options offered by the clinics. The survey, in which Ms. Best took part, is being published on Thursday in the journal Fertility and Sterility.

Among patients who wanted no more children, 53 percent did not want to donate their embryos to other couples, mostly because they did not want someone else bringing up their children, or did not want their own children to worry about encountering an unknown sibling someday.

Forty-three percent did not want the embryos discarded. About 66 percent said they would be likely to donate the embryos for research, but that option was available at only four of the nine clinics in the survey. Twenty percent said they were likely to keep the embryos frozen forever.

Embryos can remain viable for a decade or more if they are frozen properly but not all of them survive when they are thawed.

Smaller numbers of patients wished for solutions that typically are not offered. Among them were holding a small ceremony during the thawing and disposal of the embryos, or having them placed in the woman’s body at a time in her cycle when she would probably not become pregnant, so that they would die naturally.

The message from the survey is that patients need more information, earlier in the in vitro process, to let them know that frozen embryos may result and that deciding what to do with them in the future “may be difficult in ways you don’t anticipate,” said Dr. Anne Drapkin Lyerly, the first author of the study and a bioethicist and associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Duke University.

Dr. Lyerly also said discussions about the embryos should be “revisited, and not happen just at the time of embryo freezing, because people’s goals and their way of thinking about embryos change as time passes and they go through infertility treatment.”

Many couples are so desperate to have a child that when eggs are fertilized in the clinic, they want to create as many embryos as possible, to maximize their chances, Dr. Lyerly said. At that time, the notion that there could be too many embryos may seem unimaginable. (In Italy, fertility clinics are not allowed to create more embryos than can be implanted in the uterus at one time, specifically to avoid the ethical quandary posed by frozen embryos.)

In a previous study by Dr. Lyerly, women expressed wide-ranging views about embryos: one called them “just another laboratory specimen,” but another said a freezer full of embryos was “like an orphanage.”

Dr. Mark V. Sauer, the director of the Center for Women’s Reproductive Care at Columbia University Medical Center in Manhattan, said: “It’s a huge issue. And the wife and husband may not be on the same page.”

Some people pay storage fees for years and years, Dr. Sauer said. Others stop paying and disappear, leaving the clinic to decide whether to maintain the embryos free or to get rid of them.

“They would rather have you pull the trigger on the embryos,” Dr. Sauer said. “It’s like, ‘I don’t want another baby, but I don’t have it in me; I have too much guilt to tell you what to do, to have them discarded.’ ”

A few patients have asked that extra embryos be given to them, and he cooperates, Dr. Sauer said, adding, “I don’t know if they take them home and bury them.”

Federal and state regulations have made it increasingly difficult for those who want to donate to other couples, requiring that donors come back to the clinic to be screened for infectious diseases, sometimes at their own expense, Dr. Sauer said.

“It’s partly reflected in the attitude of the clinics,” he said, explaining that he does not even suggest that people give embryos to other couples anymore, whereas 10 years ago many patients did donate.

Ms. Best said her nine embryos “have the potential to become beautiful people.”

The thought of giving them up for research “conjures all sorts of horrors, from Frankenstein to the Holocaust,” she said, adding that destroying them would be preferable.

Her teenage daughter favors letting another couple adopt the embryos, but, Ms. Best said, she would worry too much about “what kind of parents they were with, what kind of life they had.”

Another survey participant, Lynnelle Fowler McDonald, a case manager for a nonprofit social service agency in Durham, N.C., has one embryo frozen at Duke, all that is left of three failed efforts at the fertility clinic.

Given the physical and emotional stress, and the expense of in vitro fertilization, Ms. McDonald said she did not know whether she and her husband could go through it again. But to get rid of that last embryo would be final; it would mean they were giving up.

“There is still, in the back of my mind, this hope,” she said.

At the Genetics and IVF Institute in Fairfax, Va., Andrew Dorfmann, the chief embryologist, said many patients were genuinely torn about what to do with extra embryos, and that a few had asked to be present to say a prayer when their embryos were thawed and destroyed.

Jacqueline Betancourt, a marketing analyst with a software company who took part in the survey, said she and her husband donated their embryos at Duke “to science, whatever that means.” It was important to them that the embryos were not just going to be discarded without any use being made of them.

Ms. Betancourt, who has two sons, said: “We didn’t ask many questions. We were just comfortable with the idea that they weren’t going to be destroyed. We didn’t see the point in destroying something that could be useful to science, to other people, to helping other people.”

Ms. Betancourt said she wished there had been more discussion about the extra embryos early in the process. If she had known more, she said, she might have considered creating fewer embryos in the first place.

    Parents Torn Over Fate of Frozen Embryos, NYT, 4.12.2008,
   
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/04/us/04embryo.html

 

 

 

 

 

Science makes fallen soldier a father

 

Updated 2/12/2007

[ American format date ]

12:40 AM ET

USA TODAY

By Gregg Zoroya

 

AUSTIN — Seven-month-old Benton Drew Smith is the spitting image of his father, with the same blue eyes, fair hair and infectious grin.

Bouncing on his mother's lap in olive-green overalls and slippers festooned with lizards, he also holds a special place in history: He is one of the first children to have been conceived from sperm left behind by a soldier who was killed in battle. Benton's dad, Army 2nd Lt. Brian Smith, was shot by a sniper in Iraq on July 2, 2004.

"I've had some lousy luck in my life," says Smith's widow, Kathleen "K.C." Carroll-Smith, 41. "But he has worked out," she says, gazing into her son's eyes as he grins back. "He's a blessing. He is wonderful."

Benton was born July 14, 2006, a little more than two years after his father, 30, was cut down by a single shot while checking the treads of his Abrams tank in Habaniyah, Iraq, west of Baghdad. The bullet sliced Smith's liver, causing internal bleeding. His wife says she was told that her husband collapsed, muttered that he could no longer feel his legs, lost consciousness and died.

Death did not erase him, Carroll-Smith says. "I have a piece of Brian with me every day now."

How many children have been artificially conceived after their father's death in war is unclear; the Department of Veterans Affairs says it knows of two similar cases during the past three years. The commercial technology for storing sperm did not become available until 1971, so the conflicts in Iraq and Afghanistan are the first in which a significant number of combat troops have been able to take advantage of the technology.

Participation remains small, relative to the number of troops in combat. About 100 troops make such deposits each year, according to officials at the nation's three largest sperm-bank companies — Fairfax Cryobank in Fairfax, Va., California Cryobank in Los Angeles and Xytex in Augusta, Ga.

"This clearly is an area where medical technology has moved faster than most of our social thinking," says Dale Smith, professor and chairman of medical history at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences in Washington, D.C. He describes the practice as "an effort to take out a social insurance policy on … mortality."

 

'Gobs of angels'

For the family of Brian Smith, the decision by his widow to become pregnant by in vitro fertilization on Oct. 29, 2005, was not without emotional turmoil.

Smith's parents, Linda and William Smith of McKinney, Texas, concede that they struggled at first to accept their daughter-in-law's decision. "There was hesitancy there in the beginning," says Linda Smith, 59. "It just didn't seem right or fair or something that Brian wouldn't be there to raise his child."

During Carroll-Smith's pregnancy, Linda Smith nonetheless remained supportive, both women say. When Carroll-Smith asked her mother-in-law for assistance late in the pregnancy, Linda Smith rushed to help prepare for the baby.

Smith's parents have since fallen in love with the baby. During the Christmas season, they took Benton to a Wal-Mart in McKinney to have his picture taken in the same sailor suit his father wore for a portrait when he was a child. The images mirror each other, Linda Smith says.

"Once you meet that little fellow," she says of her only grandchild, "you will think that there have been gobs of angels all over the place. He's absolutely the most adorable child."

Less certain is how the Pentagon and the Department of Veterans Affairs will view Benton. A child who is a legal dependent of a combat casualty is entitled under federal law to a range of educational, financial and health benefits.

No formal policy exists, however, in cases in which conception occurred after the parent died, says Lisette Mondello, a VA spokeswoman. In the two similar cases, the VA granted benefits, Mondello says.

Carroll-Smith has not yet requested that the VA declare her son a dependent of his father.

Carroll-Smith, who left her last job as a secretary in the intensive care unit at Seton Medical Center in January, says she urged her husband to deposit his sperm in a Fairfax Cryobank facility here about a month before he went to Iraq.

The decision had nothing to do with fear that he would die in combat, she says. Rather, it was for reasons that William Jaeger, Fairfax Cryobank director, says are typical of most military families that make the decision: a desire for wives to continue to try to conceive while their husbands are deployed, or a fear that a husband will lose fertility because of combat wounds or exposure to toxic chemicals.

Today, however, some families are also concerned about a husband not surviving combat.

That was what worried Army Staff Sgt. Stephen Sutherland, says his wife, Maria, 37, of North Pole, Alaska. She has two children from a previous marriage and had undergone a tubal ligation. She says Stephen Sutherland, 33, dreamed of fathering his own children and left behind a sperm deposit before deploying to Iraq in 2005.

He died Nov. 12, 2005, in the rollover of a Stryker vehicle in Al Qadisiyah, south of Baghdad. His widow became pregnant through in vitro fertilization last October and the baby is due July 17.

"I told him that if the worst should happen," Maria Sutherland recalls, "I would have this child no matter what."

 

A desire for children

Carroll-Smith says she and her husband absolutely wanted children. The couple had met at the University of Texas, where he was a student, she was a dormitory supervisor and both were members of a historical re-enactment group that specialized in pre-17th-century culture. They met one night when group members gathered to watch Star Trek: The Next Generation.

With his father's support, Smith earned a law degree at Baylor University law school in 1998 and practiced for a few years. He and Carroll-Smith married in 2002.

Smith, who had always admired the military and whose father, grandfather and an uncle had served, enlisted in the Army that year. He was deployed to Iraq in January 2004.

The couple's efforts at conceiving during the previous 18 months had failed, and Carroll-Smith wanted the option of continuing to try during her husband's deployment, she says. Eight years his senior, she feared she had little time left to conceive.

When she was 3 years old, a battery-operated doll had sparked and set her clothes on fire. She suffered third-degree burns over 45% of her body.

During the next 34 years, Carroll-Smith underwent 80 reconstructive surgeries, each under general anesthetic, and she worried that her body might no longer be capable of pregnancy.

On July 2, 2004, she was just about to begin the process of in vitro fertilization when the doorbell rang at the couple's home in north Austin. She remembers the time was 6:15 p.m.

As Carroll-Smith peered out the window, she could see a woman in a suit carrying a Bible. Thinking the caller was a Jehovah's Witness, she ignored the doorbell. But the two people outside, one of them a female military chaplain, kept ringing it.

In a ceremony July 10, Brian Smith's body was cremated along with a bottle of his favorite condiment — Dave's Insanity Hot Sauce — and a copy of a fantasy novel, Someplace to Be Flying. The ashes were buried in Smith's hometown of McKinney.

One final attempt

For two months, Carroll-Smith says, grief left her unable to function. Smith's parents were equally devastated. Then, as the fog of mourning began to lift, Carroll-Smith warmed to the idea of becoming pregnant.

After all, that had been her dream — and her husband's. It also was an opportunity that might elude her as time passed. "I'm 40," she thought then. "This was kind of a last chance."

Fairfax Cryobank officials urged her to wait six months to ensure her choice wasn't impulsive. And her mother-in-law warned that raising a child as a single parent would be difficult.

Carroll-Smith describes herself as independent-minded. She owns the power tools in the family and was the craftsman. She waited four months.

The first attempts — in October 2004 and June 2005 — failed. Each effort at in vitro fertilization — a process in which the egg is fertilized outside the body and implanted in the woman's uterus — cost $10,000 to $15,000.

Moreover, the process was agonizing. Hormone injections to help her produce eggs caused intense pain in her joints, her back and her collarbone, she says. Miserable flu-like symptoms remained for two weeks. And then there were painful injections of progesterone to boost her ability to carry the fertilized egg.

She says she was almost ready to give up. "I kind of went back into more of a depressed state," she recalls.

When a final death-gratuity payout from the Pentagon arrived, Carroll-Smith saw it as an opportunity for one more attempt. This time, she was successful. The baby boy was delivered by cesarean section at 39 weeks. He weighed 6 pounds, 10 ounces and measured 21 inches long.

She gave him the name Benton — a grandfather's surname and his father's middle name.

 

The legacy

Cradling her son on a recent afternoon, she plays back the four phone messages her husband left before and during his deployment to Iraq. They are now keepsakes. In one, he takes a stab at singing a phrase from the Beatles' Michelle. In the last one, he sounds tired, and signs off with: "Miss you terribly. Love you. Bye."

As with every other wife or husband who has lost a spouse in war, the death seemed to bring each dream to a crashing halt. "When they told me Brian died, that was it. Everything ended," Carroll-Smith says.

Reproductive technology allowed her to cheat death, at least in one small way, she says. It also helped ease her grief. That's why Carroll-Smith urges military families who dream of children to do what she and her husband did.

"It's insurance that the life you wanted, you can still sort of have," she says. Benton "does have a father figure that he will be told about and that will be expressed to him. It's not like he doesn't have a father. It's just that his father is not here.

"All my plans are not gone," she says. "This thing that we planned for actually happened."

Science makes fallen soldier a father, UT, 12.2.2007,
http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2007-02-11-
soldier-child-cover_x.htm - broken link

 

 

 

 

 

On This Day - July 26, 1978

 

From The Times Archives

 

Louise Brown
was the first test-tube baby born in Britain,
after pioneering work by the obstetrician and gynaecologist Patrick Steptoe
and the physiologist Robert Edwards

 

THE world’s first test-tube baby, a girl, was born by caesarean section just before midnight at Oldham and District Hospital, Greater Manchester. She weighed 5lb 12oz.

Mr Patrick Steptoe, the consultant gynaecologist who has pioneered test-tube baby research and who is in charge of the case, said: “All examinations showed that the baby is quite normal. The mother’s condition after delivery was also excellent.”

The mother, Mrs Lesley Brown aged 29, from Bristol, was “enjoying a well-earned sleep”.

The embryo was implanted in Mrs Brown’s womb after being fertilised in Mr Steptoe’s laboratories last November. He used sperm from her husband, a railway van driver, aged 38, who has a son from a previous marriage.

By that technique Mr Steptoe was able to by-pass Mrs Brown’s blocked fallopian tubes. The child’s financial future was assured after newspaper rights to articles and photographs were sold by Dutch auction to Associated Newspapers, publishers of the Daily Mail and London Evening News. They are believed to have paid more than £300,000.

More than 5,000 couples have sought help for infertility since the work of Mr Steptoe and Dr Robert Edwards, his partner, was first reported.

From The Times Archives > On This Day - July 26, 1978,
The Times, 26.7.2005,
http://www.newsint-archive.co.uk/pages/main.asp

 

 

 

 

 

March 17 1933

 

Youth has been robbed of a pleasure

 

From The Guardian archive

 

March 17 1933
The Guardian

 

Every generation has its own particular Dread. Victorian ladies were afraid of outspokenness and their grandmothers of indiscretion. Our own generation suffers from a singular, rather absurd, prohibition. The middle-aged are all afraid of being shocked.

It is a natural reaction from Victorian pruderies. Mothers of today have heard so much of the dangers of Inhibitions and Repressions in their children, so much of the merits of outspokenness, that for the last twenty years they have, in the spirit of maternal self-sacrifice, set their teeth and spoken out. The modern young person, enlightened from its earliest years in problems of which its great-grandmothers lived and died in blissful ignorance, speaks out in reply, and in the home quarter or in the psychological novel lets us, in their own phrase, really have it.

Their elders in turn school themselves to attend and respond without a trace of what they have learnt to call false modesty. Nowadays few educated mothers dare to call their ears or tongues, much less their souls, their own. And it is all so absurd because, by this broadmindedness, we are robbing youth of one of its greatest pleasures — that of shocking its elders. Those of us who were growing up thirty years ago knew the delights of that sensation. Sixty years ago we might have run the risk of being locked up or fed on bread and water, but those dangers were past, while we still enjoyed the glory of being daring and revolutionary.

The hardy and heartless youth of that period flung the theories of Mr. Shaw and Mr. Wells, with tentative references to Nietzsche and Freud, into the millpond of family life, and enjoyed that primeval pleasure of hearing the stone splash and seeing the ripples spread indignantly on the waters.

And then, probably at the end of the war, parents began to leave off showing that they were shocked. Upon the old and middle-aged fell that cloak of inferiority complex which led them to say: "The younger generation must settle these things for themselves." So they must, but it is incomparably more exhilarating to do so in the face of a little honest opposition. We murmur resigned sighs of acquiescence to their Communism when we should vaunt the old school of Liberalism to the skies.

When our children inform us that marriage is a relic of superstition and family life a ridiculous survival it is foolish to agree resignedly. They would prefer us to blow a fuse, and hold up our old-world standards of purity, and home life. It is only when we face the armies of rebellious youth that they have to review their position and test their ammunition.

From The Guardian archive > March 17 1933 >
Youth has been robbed of a pleasure,
G,
Republished 17.3.2007,
p. 34,
http://digital.guardian.co.uk/guardian/2007/03/17/
pages/ber34.shtml

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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